Squish Gardens: Grow Better. Waste Less

There was a season when we were both in the same room but felt miles apart. We were busy, always busy, managing work, the house, parenting, errands, and everything in between. By the time the evening came, we had nothing left to give each other except exhaustion. We weren’t fighting, but we weren’t really talking either. We laughed less. We touched less. We were living side by side but not truly together.

It wasn’t one big argument that made us realize something was wrong, it was a quiet moment. One day, our son was outside digging in the dirt, proudly showing us the tiny sprout he found, and we realized we hadn’t been outside with him in weeks. We stood there, watching him play, and it hit us like a light bulb turning on, we were growing everything in our lives except each other.

We knew something needed to change.

That night, we talked honestly for the first time in a long while. We realized that connection isn’t something you stumble upon; it’s something you nurture. We decided to start small, with something simple, quiet, and grounding: a garden.

There was a season in our lives when it felt like we were missing something. Our days were busy, filled with all the right things, work, school, meals, routines, but the laughter between us had quieted. Our little boy was growing fast, and we suddenly realized how easy it was to be in the same house yet live in completely separate worlds.

There was one morning — one of those mornings every parent knows too well — when everything felt like too much.
Shoes were missing. Lunchboxes weren’t packed. The coffee pot hadn’t even started brewing yet, and our little boy was asking questions faster than we could form answers.

By the time we finally made it out the door, my shoulders were already tight, my jaw clenched, and I could feel that familiar heat rising — the one that whispers, “You’re failing. You should be more patient.”

But the truth was, it wasn’t just about that morning. It was every morning. Every rush. Every spilled cup of milk. Every “I don’t want to” from a tired child who just needed us to slow down.

That day, sitting in the car after drop-off, I looked at the garden bed we had left half-finished in the yard. The weeds had taken over. The tools were still leaning against the fence from weeks ago. It felt like a metaphor for how life had gotten away from us — overgrown, unbalanced, and a little bit forgotten.

And then it hit me.

We weren’t just losing our patience with each other — we were losing it with ourselves.